What is Zen?

Zen is a total state of focus that incorporates a total togetherness of body and mind. Zen is a way of being. It also is a state of mind. Zen involves dropping illusion and seeing things without distortion created by your own thoughts.

Sunday, February 9, 2014

The Falling of Snow (Day 39)

February 8, 2014


     Falling softly, quietly as a gentle whisper. Tiny, gradually grand frozen stars floating to and fro on air to earth.  A soft blanket a gift for the flora and fauna.  Pristine beauty pleasing to the eye.  Calming refreshment for a once brown and dying landscape.  A cheery, brightness added to the outlook of winter.  A smile.  "Let's go make a snowman." a grown man cheers, breaking the morning silence.

     To me this is what marriage is like.  It can make life cheerful.  Relaxing adding brightness to a once dull life.  But it can also be the brown and dying landscape at times.  We just have to be prepared to grab our gear and become prepared to make a snowman.  

     There are many things about married life that are really enjoyable.  Companionship, love, support, and even friendship.  Marriage has it's down sides as well.  Someone to answer to, arguments, money, and religion to name a few.  But with shared teamwork it can be fabulous.  Anything fabulous is worth working for or earning.  Think about all of he things you love.  Do they come easy or did you have to work for them?

     One of the issues my husband and I have as a couple is both having the need to be right.  We have stopped listening to each other and what the other has to say.  We focus more on what we've said and being right.  It is my first goal to change this about myself.  From this day forward I am going to work towards having a conversation instead of having a competition on which one of us is right.  A few months back I down loaded an app called the love dare.  I learned of it after watching the movie Fireproof one evening.  Every couple should watch this movie because it has some very enlightening points and lessons we can all learn from as a couple.  Each day as I use the app it gives a new task to follow or do for your spouse.  There are scriptures to go with the task and your efforts will not go unnoticed by your spouse.

     I feel that every day is a great day for change for the better in a marriage just as a brown landscape is a great time for a snowfall.  

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